Welcome back! I hope everyone had a good Thanksgiving break. For the first time in 17 years we did not host and cook, which felt strange and yet was relaxing. I could get used to this!
Today my son texted me on his way home from a school trip. He was writing to let me know he left one of our nice, fancy, thermal water bottles at the destination. I am actually glad he texted because it gave me time to process my feelings and think about how to respond to him. My first reaction was that I was angry – it was my favorite bottle, which I use a lot. Grrrr. And then I thought I should just accept that it was gone and not dwell on it since it is just a water bottle. I also realized he probably felt pretty bad about it and I did not want to make him feel worse. So when I first responded to the news I simply wrote back…
I felt like that conveyed my disappointment but wasn’t too judgmental.
After thinking about it for a few moments, I realized I was feeling like that was not enough. While his act was not intentional, he should at least learn something from this experience, and that it presented him with an opportunity to take responsibility for his carelessness. So I wrote back, and we had the following exchange.
We finished the conversation when he got home.
He agreed to talk to his teacher, Ms. N, to problem solve this. Do I think I will ever see this water bottle again? No, I am pretty sure it already belongs to someone else. Am I fully aware that this my be a totally fruitless endeavor? Yes. However, I still want him to take responsibility and learn what kinds of things he can do when he makes a mistake.
We shall see how it turns out – I’ll let you know next week!
Until then, have a good weekend!